I personally think you are a liar and a manipulator. I think you’d like to consider yourself a “master” manipulator, but – you’re really not.
You want L to make the final call on your relationship. You’re putting every decision on her, the brunt of the problems on her. And when she calls you on your bullshit, you…cry. You cry and say how much you don’t want to lose her. You cry and say you want to work things out.
You cry…all the while you have your quasi-girlfriend on hold in Discord. Waiting for you while you…cry…and say how you want to make things better. You want to do the things to make yourself better. You say everything you think she wants to hear…while you’re crying and playing the victim.
Yet, you couldn’t be bothered even attempting to spend time with Lsis and C when they were there. Why? Because you and L weren’t “close”. What does that even mean? You’re not close enough to spend time with her sister and nephew, but you’re “close” enough to go on a trip to Maine? You’re “close” enough to discuss how YOUR family is expecting the two of you to be in Maine for either Thanksgiving or Christmas? You’re “close” enough for that…but, not “close” enough for you to not spend hours online with your “ex” while L’s family is visiting.
You put YOU not spending time with THEM on L. And that has nothing to do with her and everything to do with YOU not wanting to miss time with your “ex”.
That is classic manipulation and borderline narcissistic behaviour. But, of course, you wouldn’t see it that way. Because…you couldn’t possibly be part of the problem, right?
You suggest more than once that you and L schedule time to spend together. And you don’t seem to see an issue with that. However, you have no inclination to schedule time with A. No, you want L to agree to schedule time to spend with you.
That is absolutely ridiculous.
But, yet…you cry when she brings shit up and calls you on your abysmal behaviour.
I see through your bullshit…and I don’t even know you.
The thing is…you’re going to continue to do the same thing to anyone you have any sort of relationship with. Because at the end of the day, you only care about yourself.
I actually considered asking L to ask you to come to this country for at least part of her visit. Because your “tears” made me think that you actually wanted to work things out at first.
But, actions speak louder than words.
And you crying and saying all the “right” things? That doesn’t gel with you continuing to spend hours with A and leaving L to fend for herself…unless she actually makes the effort to come downstairs to talk to you.
I think all of this comes down to the fact that she doesn’t want to have sex with you and you can’t handle that. You don’t want a relationship, that’s obvious. You want sex. Sex doesn’t equal love and it’s sad that you’ve gotten to the age you are and you don’t seem to know that. It’s really sad that you’ve gotten to the age you are and have been in a relationship for as long as you have been, yet…you still only think about yourself. You don’t think about the relationship. You think about yourself and what you get/don’t get out of it. Because that is what’s important to you. You don’t seem to want to know WHY you don’t get what you want – you just make up your own mind and assume certain things about her and then talk to a different ex about that. I’m sure that you’ve discussed that with A as well, because…that would track in your victim persona.
Why would anyone want to have sex with someone who can’t even be bothered to spend time with her? Just because you live together doesn’t mean that you’re entitled to sex.
The fact that you have those discussions with other people and NOT the one person you should have had them with…says a lot about YOU.
Even when she talks to you and explains…
All you do is cry and promise to be better.
And then you turn right around and call your…”friend”.
Tell me…no…
Tell L how that is supposed to make her think that you actually give the tiniest shit about your relationship.
Because it doesn’t matter what you tell me. I see you for what you are. A liar, a manipulator, a little boy who wants to play the victim. My eleven year old son is more of a man than you will ever be.
HE knows how to treat people he actually cares about.
It’s very sad that you have yet to learn how to care about anyone other than yourself.
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