Let’s talk about your complete LACK of equality in a relationship
Quick example.
You say you’re going to make dinner. You go play games with A. L waits for AGES, then gives up and is like ‘I’m ordering pizza’ and you respond with…
“I was just getting ready to…”
No you weren’t. At least be an adult and own the fact that you weren’t.
Do you know how many times L and I have been playing and she would say ‘hey, can we take a break? I need to go do dinner’?
Too many times to count. Not once have you EVER had to come in and be like…hey, dinner?
You could’ve easily paused the game, taken a break. But you couldn’t be bothered because THAT was more important to you than being an adult in a relationship.
But to be “I was getting ready to”…that’s gaslightling. Because you weren’t. And L knows it. Because she told me before she even went down there that you were going to say exactly that.
And then L gets covid. She’s sick. Really sick. She asks you to take the garbage cans out, she has everything together. She just needs you to do that. You say you will.
And then you go jump on the computer with A.
And L knows exactly how this is going to go.
So, it starts to get dark – and she takes the garbage out herself, even though she’s really very sick. Because she knows you won’t do it.
Then at around 10pm you go into the bedroom to get your stuff because you’re sleeping in the guest room. Why? Because L has covid…and you have plans to go away that weekend (which happens to be your birthday weekend). And who is going with you?
A.
Yeah, nice.
Anyway. L makes a comment that it was a good thing she took the garbage out. Your response?
You drop your head and say “shit. You should’ve reminded me.”
Who the hell do you think she is, your fucking mother? Why should she have to remind you to do something you AGREED to do?
The only reason you didn’t do it is because you couldn’t be fucked getting off the computer because you were talking with A….who was still waiting on the computer for you while you were busy telling L that she should have reminded you to be an adult in an adult relationship.
You do NOTHING in the relationship, but want EVERYTHING from L.
Toxic, narcissistic motherfucker.