So, you’ve done this thing multiple times that just shows how manipulative and untrustworthy you actually are. I can think of three separate times in the past three weeks that it’s happened. It’s probably happened more than that — it’s just those are the ones I know about.
That’s an average of at least once a week — which is just absolutely abysmal.
But, let’s talk about it. I’ll explain it in as much detail as I possibly can, just so you can understand.
What’s this thing you do?
You’ll have A on a call and then mute the call when L needs to discuss something really important or when you are busy making crocodile tears while saying you don’t want to lose L. Do you end the call? Do you say ‘hey, I need to go. Talk later.’?
No. That’s what a non-manipulative, non-toxic, non-narcissistic, caring person would do.
You are very much none of those things.
Example 1:
L calls you on your bullshit and tells you she saw the ‘I miss you so much’ message. She needs time and space and sets a boundary for herself. A very important boundary.
You go downstairs and call A.
Later, you come back upstairs. You’re crying and saying how much you don’t want to lose L and how you want to work on your relationship and how much you want to be a better person for her.
Come to find out — A is still online downstairs…waiting for you to come back. All the while, you’re promising more bullshit to L and crying to her.
So, while you’re crying about how much you don’t want to lose L, you have another girl waiting for you downstairs. And you don’t think that says more than your proclamations.
Lolkay, dude.
Example 2:
L goes down to talk to you about the fact that your actions are not matching the words that have been coming out of your mouth. As in, you say all of the above things…yet, you had done nothing to lessen the time you spent with A online. You had done nothing about spending more time with L. You had done nothing about being more respectful to L.
Literally nothing had changed at all.
When she got downstairs, you were on a call with A. Surprise, surprise, surprise.
Do you say to A – ‘Hey, I need to go. Talk later’?
No. You mute the call.
You then follow L back upstairs to talk about things — leaving A on mute. You talk with L for over an hour, again crying and promising how you want to be better and how you’re going to get some help. All the while…
A is on mute…waiting for you to return.
And again, you see no issue with this. You don’t see how this is in direct opposition to the words coming out of your mouth.
Probably because you know the words are lies.
Example 3:
L comes down to talk to you about something. You’re oddly sitting at your computer, looking at a ‘work’ screen. A few minutes into the conversation, L notices that you have an airpod in — which is very unusual. So, she asks about it.
You say you were on a call. Past tense. And you continue the conversation with L.
Minutes later, it comes out that you are actually still on a call — with A. And that you had muted the call. Again.
Except this time, you lied about it and you hid it.
And you tried to lie your way out of it by saying you weren’t hiding it. Even though that is literally what you did.
And you obviously see no issue with this because you “apologized”. The reason it’s obvious you see no issue with it is because you apparently think that just because you say “I’m sorry”, everything is fine and shit is forgotten. Because the very next afternoon, you’re asking L if she wants to watch some show with you.
She explains that she’s still upset about what had happened the previous night.
Your response?
I’m sorry, dude. Let’s talk about it.
Even that is so disrespectful.
You really have no idea how to treat anyone. Because, as I’ve said before, you only care about yourself.
And that is stupidly obvious. Kind of like you.